I had the privilege of preaching with my wife last Thursday. The message was called, “I Don’t Want to Break Up. I believe that many millennials have a propensity to become intoxicated by the idea of pursuit, love, and companionship. Instead of being patient and prayerful, they are fueled with infatuation and jump into pursuing someone without taking the time to truly get to know that person.
When we finally get into that relationship the fear of being alone pulls powerfully on our emotions and can potentially paralyze us into a place where will do anything we can to hold on to a person even though we know he or she is not the right one.
If you are in a relationship right now or are “talking” to someone please take some time and ask yourself these questions. Do not fall into deception thinking that the person will get better in time. You will know a tree by the fruit it bears. Many of you asked for the questions we shared at the end of our message. So here they are:
- Is your potential spouse a strong believer in Jesus? Does he consistently exhibit the fruit of the Spirit — love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control?
- Does he show compassion for others? Does he show love for God in how he spends his time and money?
- Is this a man you respect?
- Could you envision yourself submitting to and following him over the course of your lives together?
- Do you believe he will deeply care for you and your children? Will he serve you above himself and encourage your spiritual growth, as he is called to do in Ephesians 5?
- Is he growing in the characteristics of biblical manhood (1 Timothy 3, Titus 1 and 1 Peter 3)?
- Is she growing in the characteristics of biblical womanhood and what the Bible calls “true beauty” (Proverbs 31, 1 Peter 3, Titus 2)?
- Do you envision her being supportive of you in whatever God may call you to?
- Does this relationship spur you on in your Christian discipleship, or does it dull and distract your interest in the Lord and His people? Are you more or less eager to study God’s Word, pray and give yourself in service as a result of time spent together
- Do you think she will make a good discipler of your children?
- What do other mature Christian friends and family members say about your relationship?
- Do you see a relationship in her that is spiritually solid and God-glorifying?
If you find yourself at a standstill, not knowing whether to more forward I want to encourage you today to trust Jesus.
I’m Harold Dorrell Briscoe. Thanks for reading.