I remember my first day of Analysis class last semester, my professor wrote this quote on the board. Two thirds of what we see is behind our eyes. He had the class discuss the quote for a little and we pretty much came to the same consensus: that we create our own world through our personal perception of it. Our past experiences are essentially building material, pillars that are used to construct our present-day reality.
We have to choose to either thrive or survive in dysfunction. We all face dysfunction at different times and in different areas in our lives. The question is how will we perceive the world from our own experiences?
If you merely SURVIVE in dysfunction, what you see in the present and in the future will be through a lens of the dysfunction that you’re in. How you see yourself, situations, and people will be through the filter of the dysfunction that you reside in.
If you THRIVE in dysfunction you will have a whole new set of cognitive faculties, a new set of lenses not only to see your problem, but to see-through the problem and find the best solution. You will be able to respond to situations and people with wisdom, patience, and grace.
Here are two things that are vital to thrive in dysfunction:
Mentorship: People survive in dysfunction by ignoring and covering up the rough issues that they’re dealing with. It’s only natural to want to protect our image. So we are quick to shuffle painful experiences under the rug of projected image. To hide things in the closet of protected persona. Thinking that time heals all wounds.
We are experts at hiding what we don’t want others to see! We wear clothes that minimize our physical shortcomings, we put make up on to cover our flaws and we keep inside thoughts that might not be acceptable to others.
We can perfect an elaborate system to present an acceptable image of ourselves to others. That is why mentorship is so important. It chips away at that system. We need someone to help us see the areas that we are blind to.
On-going forgiveness: I know too many people unable to move past certain situations because of un-forgiveness. It can be detrimental to our physical and spiritual well-being. It can manifest itself is depression, anger, hatred, resentment and physical elements, all of which rob us of peace, joy, health, and power.
Forgiveness is not just a one-time action, it has to be on-going. As you notice feelings of hurt, bitterness, betrayal, etc. arise these are good indicators that you must choose again to forgive. Pray for that person. Be careful not to let the hurt that they have caused you to continue to impact your life. I’ve seen too many people experience serious pain from others and allow that pain to affect their future decisions. This essentially allows the person who hurt you to continue to hurt you and rob from you. We must choose to forgive.
I’m Harold Dorrell Briscoe. Thanks for reading.